(f@ you have and are willing to talk about your experience. also i'm asking questions that are hard for people to address, so...)i have no answers for this. transformative justice (despite having justice in the name) sometimes sounds ok in theory. restorative justice a little less so (depending on who is defining it, i guess). accountability has lost almost all its credibility for me--although some people are creative enough to surprise me still, so i leave room for that.a partial list of complicating factors area) the transitory nature of most anarchists (and others, but anarchists are who concerns me here) both in space and in time (ie we mostly travel a lot, and also mostly don't remain anarchists for very long), b) we have vastly different standards/criteria for what makes or is a desirable outcome, c) the name-calling and shallow thinking of the "snitches get stitches" variety, which doesn't encourage (or allow) more nuanced, event-specific conversation (online conversation is implicated in here somewhere too), d) we have a hard time trusting each other (this is related to a and b), and probably other things.my thought has been for a while that cliques or affinity groups or social circles take topics that are alive for them (snitching, sexual assault, racially complicated interactions, mental health issues/violence) on a peer level, and talk about how they specifically would act and would want to be treated in an Event that made their behavior suspect to others. so that there is a basis of understanding at least how different people are in assumptions and expectations even within friendly circles. i guess it's the Encounter Session Strategy (lol). but these days those who even have social circles don't ever want to talk about these things seriously until it happens to them or a friend, at which point most folks are freaked out and it's harder to have perspective.
still seems like a decent idea, just unworkable.typical! :)
it to me seems there are inherent problems with people living together, and the type of nuerotic society we live in tends to make them worse. The transient nature of anarchist groups is something to be considered, along with the authoritarian ideas that are attached to such ideas as "justice". This is why I'm just trying to put up with where I've always lived, i don't feel like i have much more hope in adapting to any other place or finding "cooler people" as many imagine here.Unfortunately, it seems like anarchism itself will carry moralistic baggage since it's so heavily tied to radical left thinking, and there are also some things that are legitimately appalling and offensive about the dominant culture, and attacking them isn't easy at all, and has very grave consequences. For example, with rape, when it's actually a RAPE (forced sex), that's pretty fucking serious, and the victim must already be in such a situation where it's difficult to talk about, or it was an anonymous encounter (they didn't know the attacker), so your pretty alone in that case, and would require a lot of strength and thought to actually fix the situation, or call attention to it. and as far as other expanded definitions of rape, well, that just seems to make the situation about a million times as volatile.